I always love hearing all of the crazy, beautiful, wonderful proposal stories that my friends and Beautini brides pass along. It seems like proposals have gotten more and more elaborate… grander declarations of love that showcase the personality of the couple, and I couldn’t love that more. In the interest of sharing these stories with my lovely readers, I’ve decided to host a five part series, featuring some of the most beautiful proposal stories that I have heard.
JULIA + JOSEPH
Name & your to-be Hubby’s Name:
Julia Nethero + Joseph Fan
City where you guys live:
New York, NY
The Highline Ballroom- DAYBREAKER
How long had you been together?
2 years, 1 month, and 13 days
How did you guys meet?
A polar vortex winter night on January 18, 2014, Joseph donned his Adventure Time onesie, a gold leather winged & fringed jacket, Disorient (a burning man camp) goggles, and his signature Christmas lights. On my first Saturday night in the Big Apple after moving back from China, I joined my college (Vassar) besties Mitchell Gilburne and Magnolia Swanson for an only-in-New-York kind of event: a silent disco on the subway. Gathering at bar near Atlantic Terminal, everyone picked up their headphones and suited up for an adventure on the F train to an undisclosed location. Walking through the Atlantic Avenue subway station, I noticed Joseph immediately with his outlandish outfit and decided, “He must be a fun guy.” I approached him (well, depends on who’s telling the story…) and complemented his outfit. Within a few minutes, I mentioned I had just moved back from China.
“I’m Chinese,” Joseph stated. “Cool! I speak Chinese,” I said. Ya, sure. Just like every white girl speaks Chinese, Joseph thought. “Ya? Say something” Joseph prompted. He realized within a few sentences that my Chinese far surpassed his own. He was impressed. “So what do you do?” I asked. “I’m a public interest lawyer,” Joseph answered. Be still my heart! I thought. (I work in human rights and international development, a total bleeding heart).
After a few minutes, “So, is your boyfriend going to be mad you’re talking to me?” Joseph questioned, gesturing at Mitchell. “Mitchell?” I laughed. “No, Mitchell’s not my boyfriend.” Joseph smiled, “Oh good. Well, I’d love to show you around New York sometime,” Joseph offered. I thought to myself: as if I need somebody to show me around New York City… but any excuse to keep talking to this guy! So I said “Sure.” Joseph clarified “like, on a date. I want to take you on a date.” I smiled and we both laughed. The rest is history!
Joseph began plotting the proposal in November 2015. As I pranced around in my favorite Santa dress at Daybreaker’s Christmas party, Joseph decided to do it at a future Daybreaker. Daybreaker is a morning sober dance party that Joseph and I have been breaking it down at since it started in 2014. Over the next few months, Joseph and the amazing Daybreaker mischief makers planned and rehearsed the epic proposal. Unsuspecting me, convinced Joseph would never propose, also began thinking about proposing sometime during Summer 2016 and told this to my long-time childhood bestie Jillian. Joseph invited many of my close friends to come for the proposal and one of the first friends he called, Jillian, with this insider information, reassured Joseph that I would say yes.
Fast forward to Wednesday, March 2, 2016: After our 5:30am wake up, Joseph faked a stomach ache to delay our departure. I made him breakfast and forced pepto bismol on Joseph. “We don’t have to go. It’s ok,” I comforted him. “NO! I mean, I’m feeling better…” Joseph said. So we finished getting dressed in my Pink Power Ranger and his Dragon Ball Z outfit (it was Daybreaker: Superhero Edition) and jumped in a cab at 7:30am. Meanwhile at Daybreaker, which started at 7am, Elliott LaRue (who’s MCing our wedding!) taught the 650-person crowd a flashmob dance to Marry You by Bruno Mars.
We arrived at Daybreaker around 7:50am. Once Joseph got me on stage with our friends, he told me he was sick again and ran to go change out of his Dragon Ball Z outfit into a suit. Back on stage, Elliott begins leading the crowd in a coordinated dance to Marry You by Bruno Mars. Seeing this coordinated dance, I thought, guess I’m behind on pop culture again and missed another viral music video dance…completely oblivious to the fact that this was a flash mob in MY honor. I even started doing the dance with the crowd. Then the crowd parts…
Joseph struts through the crowd and jumps on stage. Is he…? No, no, definintely not. There’s no way he’s… he’s just…singing to me…”Marry You”… in front of 650 people…Typical Joseph, I convinced myself. Bruno Mars fades and someone hands Joseph his Ukulele. Wait, maybe he is… no, no, no way…. I mean…cuz if he’s not proposing, it would be really embarrassing if I think he is… cuz like, he’s definintely not…and there are hundreds of people watching me right now..ya, just play it cool… I thought. Joseph begins playing “Julia 2”, the second song he wrote me back in 2014.
Ok, maybe this really happening, I finally start to think. Then Joseph changes the last two lines of the song, “Julia, you light up my life. Now I just got to ask,” he kneels and pulls out the ring, “will you be my wife?” I jump up and down, do a little dance, and shout “YES!” into the microphone. The crowd starts chanting “YES! YES! YES!” Before I could even grab the ring, I am promptly tackled by two friends. I then turn around to see all of my friends, including out of towners, who had been hiding earlier to not give anything away. We all hug and scream and jump. I finally steal away to get the ring from Joseph. Joseph’s boss and his husband lift us up onto their shoulders. After more congratulations, we crowd surf and end the spectacular morning in the middle of a 650-person group hug.
When is/ was the wedding?
May 19, 2017!
Did anyone help with pulling off the proposal/how did they help?:
DAYBREAKER: Eli, Radha, Elliott, Dean, Alex, and Molly helped Joseph with all the planning, and ensured everything went off without a hitch!
Videographer: Alex Colby
Do Amore: There could not be a more perfect ring for me. Most importantly, this is a conflict free diamond. But not only is it conflict free- Do Amore gives a portion of the proceeds of each ring to their non-profit partners who build a well that gives 2 people water for life! As if that wasn’t enough, did I mention the ring glows in blacklight?!